Good point. I think this kind of correlates with the post about success in the latin dance space. He is probably trying to gain followers, especially since I think he isn't a social dancer that faces rejection.
Rejection Sensitivity
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desconocida
Son
Yes, most of these post give a bit of an "engagement bait" vibe. "What do you think? Have you ever felt like this? Write your experience in the comments". Thanks, no thanks
LinkedIn feed is full of click bait posts to generate engagement. Many posts are now AI generated. People will also post provocative headline or post for generating engagement. It used to be called trolling. Now it is called “generating engagement”Yes, most of these post give a bit of an "engagement bait" vibe. "What do you think? Have you ever felt like this? Write your experience in the comments". Thanks, no thanks
Social media is a magnet for useless irrelevant content. It is like a loudmouth at a party that goes on and on.
I can't rememeber a time any member of the Salsa aristocracy wrote anything on social media worth being parsed on an intellectual level that would stimulate forward thinking.
The best stuff is when the elites start stealing each other's choreography, are shoving someone's face in between their legs, organizers publicly canceling artists or someone's head being backflipped, which is when we truly see who these people are.
I must commend Talal on his thought provoking headline, but I'm afraid it's just a time killer for the next scandal.
The best stuff is when the elites start stealing each other's choreography, are shoving someone's face in between their legs, organizers publicly canceling artists or someone's head being backflipped, which is when we truly see who these people are.
I must commend Talal on his thought provoking headline, but I'm afraid it's just a time killer for the next scandal.
1derpalm
Son Montuno
That is kind of huscdrmeanir. But he ys a nice dude who seems to disagree with elitist attitudes during social dancing.Yes, most of these post give a bit of an "engagement bait" vibe. "What do you think? Have you ever felt like this? Write your experience in the comments". Thanks, no thanks
cedan
Changui
I get rejected by some girls and its usually not a direct rejection and I cannot figure it out (usually they are very pretty girls who are decent or good dancers). I used to feel confused and did not know how to move on. These days I just move on (mostly move away to a place so that we do not have to make an eye contact). Even then I have seen girls who rejected me bring another guy and dance in front of me (even look at me), hopefully it is not intentional. I usually never ask a girl a second time even if she says "maybe later" or "next song". If she rejects me a second time at a different event, if I remember, I would never ask her if I remember her face. My reasons are not related to her. I have to ask girls who show more interest and this makes my dance life simple. Simplicity is my biggest asset in dancing.
I was in Europe lately, girls were much nicer to me (In SF Bay in some places, some girls do not dance with newer guys at all, unless they are shiny in some way). I think that the men women ratio matters to some degree.
I do not want to dance with girls who are physically rough (I have thinner muscles than many and its specially uncomfortable if the girl is muscular). I also do not want to be rude, but these are the girls who would probably ask guys most. In US West Coast there are shortage of female dancers on some places.
I was in Europe lately, girls were much nicer to me (In SF Bay in some places, some girls do not dance with newer guys at all, unless they are shiny in some way). I think that the men women ratio matters to some degree.
I do not want to dance with girls who are physically rough (I have thinner muscles than many and its specially uncomfortable if the girl is muscular). I also do not want to be rude, but these are the girls who would probably ask guys most. In US West Coast there are shortage of female dancers on some places.
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1derpalm
Son Montuno
My rejection are direct.
"No"
"I think I'm good"
"I'll pass"
"Vete" (cuban women)
(Crinkle nose and pat me on the head) (old white women looking for Cuban D).
Its far and few between but IMO impolite enough that it burns Into my memory.
As a result I literally never ask Blondes or women who look like or.dreas like they are on performance teams.
And cubanas in cuba I wait for them to ask me unless they smile at me when j walk by.
"No"
"I think I'm good"
"I'll pass"
"Vete" (cuban women)
(Crinkle nose and pat me on the head) (old white women looking for Cuban D).
Its far and few between but IMO impolite enough that it burns Into my memory.
As a result I literally never ask Blondes or women who look like or.dreas like they are on performance teams.
And cubanas in cuba I wait for them to ask me unless they smile at me when j walk by.
Harsh!!
1derpalm
Son Montuno
Yes. Andbjnce I had a cuban look angrily at mecznd point UK other people to ask.Harsh!!
Even smiling and being polite on first impression, I am polarizing, I guess.
Bostontraitor
Son
There’s this really good looking girl in my city, and she’s turned me down five times now. I talked to a friend about it, and he told me not to take it personally since she dances with everyone. But honestly, every time I ask, she’s either “on break” or about to leave, and she won’t make eye contact in the dance club.
I started paying attention like my friend suggested, and she does say yes to plenty of other guys, even beginners. Yesterday I was standing right next to her, both me and another guy asked her to dance, and she picked him. I was literally closer to her.
Funny thing is, I’ve bumped into her twice out side of dance club, and both times she smiled at me. I don’t know what’s going on. Five tries, zero dances. At this point, I’m just taking my own advice, time to stop asking, and just dance with other followers.
I started paying attention like my friend suggested, and she does say yes to plenty of other guys, even beginners. Yesterday I was standing right next to her, both me and another guy asked her to dance, and she picked him. I was literally closer to her.
Funny thing is, I’ve bumped into her twice out side of dance club, and both times she smiled at me. I don’t know what’s going on. Five tries, zero dances. At this point, I’m just taking my own advice, time to stop asking, and just dance with other followers.
Bostontraitor
Son
Sometimes "I think I am good" with a smirk is not a good response.
Maybe it was just badluck, maybe you once stared at her one second too long and now she thinks you are creepy, maybe she can't remember she turned you down too often.
But even if you get a dance with her she won't become your girlfriend. Whether you get a dance with her or not doesn’t affect your life. Better don't ask her again, other mothers also have good looking daughters.
Bostontraitor
Son
All possible. I have never danced with her before. Guess I never will.
Good suggestions. The last line had me laughing. Never heard it put that way. I will use it somewhere.
5 times? You need to contact Guinness Book of World Records
Bostontraitor
Son
In a perfect world, it’d be nice to just dance with everyone in my city, be cool with everyone, have fun, especially with the people I see at the club all the time. But like Mambojazz said, the truth is, we don’t really need each other. We’ve both got plenty of people to dance with, and one dance between us wouldn’t change a thing. It’s just a dance.
I live here, I see new dancers all the time. Honestly, I probably wouldn’t have asked her yesterday if I’d noticed she wasn’t totally friendly with other beginners. I’ll admit, I’m kinda spoiled. Usually if someone rejects me three times, I move on. Maybe if I lived in a smaller city with a smaller scene, I’d think twice. But here? I just don’t care that much. I tried not to just dance with the same group of dancers every time. I posted here just for the gizz.
You know I'm joking, but 5 times is kind of extreme in the sense that she must be aware that you really wanted to dance with her. Good you're not petty like me.
1derpalm
Son Montuno
That was my point. Rejections that I DO take personally
Thanks to Boston traitor for another episode in the never-ending story of... no no no, no no! And MamboJazz for the wise words and Sunday funny all rolled into a punchline. Now my morning coffee feels... spiked!
As guy, just have to accept some gals just don't want to dance with you, for whatever... Luckily plenty pretty daughters around. Now the flip side, to be asked... Just about every time can always spot some who never got asked so never danced, so whole night wasted. Overall I'll still say I'm at the better end, so no bitching from me
As guy, just have to accept some gals just don't want to dance with you, for whatever... Luckily plenty pretty daughters around. Now the flip side, to be asked... Just about every time can always spot some who never got asked so never danced, so whole night wasted. Overall I'll still say I'm at the better end, so no bitching from me
Bostontraitor
Son
Not five times in one night—five different occasions, if I was not very clear.
Honestly, like Mambojazz said, she probably doesn’t even realize how many times I’ve asked. She’s not keeping count, but I am. Gotta know when to stop, right? I don’t dislike her or anything, and it’s pretty clear I’m not on her list. So yeah, I did us both a favor, I will stop asking.