Rejection Sensitivity

noobster said:
Hmm possibly rough, off time, or otherwise unpleasant lead?

Smiling off the dance floor just means she is pleasant/friendly/recognizes you. Does not imply a desire to dance.

I would stop asking her. But you might want to ask for some honest feedback from a follower you trust.
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Haha, I saw her at the dance club tonight. I ended up dancing right next to her once, and after that, we just looked at each other, looked away, and walked off. Lol, kind of like a silent mutual agreement.

I’ve been dancing for years now. If my lead were unpleasant, someone would’ve told me by now, trust me, not all of them are shy.
 
FranzFan said:
Why so many London people travel abroad only to dance with exactly the same group
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Reminds me of a clip I saw recently where a couple got a lot of compliments on a social dance at B2M in Prague. Funny thing is, I see these same two dancing dancing weekly on videos in London.
 
1derpalm said:
Yeah. Sont get me wrong. I' do get asked a lot. I am from a small city, and I am am fairly popular (I hate to use the word) in a few towns in a 400 km radius. But they are still small scenes.
Even in havana I get asked a fair amount (except the swedes)..
But toronto or at congresses.. nope. Well. Not top dancers. I have had ah!t experiences with dj both dancers, both dancing and non dancing. That's why I harbor such (justified) vitriol. And it is almost exclusively that subset that i get attitude from.
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Toronto seems extremely friendly for followers. I was there earlier this year and again this week. I had no trouble getting asked to dance. Ratio seemed balanced and the leaders were very willing to take a chance on a new face.

Also, la mirada totally works. I tried it on two guys. It was a bit weird trying to make eye contact with a stranger and I didn't think I had connected with either of them. But both came over and invited me after a couple of songs.
 
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