Salsa Bear
Son
Tough Choices
Wow, what a fascinating topic - and I haven't had time to explore all 25 pages of it yet.
I wonder how many guys jump into Salsa (or any other dance), thinking it's going to be a magic ticket to meeting women, only to discover that most of the women flock to more experienced dancers, dance instructors or visiting celebrities. Next, they discover that they've painted themselves into a corner:
They feel like they have to have a dancer for a companion, but the local dance scene is so small, they're left with very few options. Someone in this thread said the Salsa scene in LOS ANGELES was too small. Sheez! Surely LA boasts the largest or second largest Salsa scene in the U.S.
I think dance is one of the most wonderful parts of life, yet I also have many other interests. So I would love to find a dancer for a partner - but not someone who lives only to dance.
One solution is to connect with someone who isn't a Salsa dancer but wants to learn. Another would be to visit another country with a different social scene. Imagine some Latin country where 90% of the population dances Salsa, in addition to their other studies, careers and hobbies. (It would be great to find someone who could teach me Salsa and Spanish at the same time!)
In the meantime, I tend to be more attracted to beginners, partly because I'm not yet a good dancer but also because I don't perceive them as being part of any clique, or the "Salsa establishment." Yet I seldom see them more than once. Is that because the great majority of people give up on Salsa, or is it just a symptom of the economy? (I ran into a couple several weeks ago who were in love with Salsa but said they couldn't afford lessons.)
Frankly, I find this topic a little scary - what hope is there? Of course, one can always expand one's horizons by learning another dance, like Cha Cha or Merengue. I've met several women I was attracted to who said they like Swing more than Salsa. But I think I'm addicted to Latin music.
Wow, what a fascinating topic - and I haven't had time to explore all 25 pages of it yet.
I wonder how many guys jump into Salsa (or any other dance), thinking it's going to be a magic ticket to meeting women, only to discover that most of the women flock to more experienced dancers, dance instructors or visiting celebrities. Next, they discover that they've painted themselves into a corner:
They feel like they have to have a dancer for a companion, but the local dance scene is so small, they're left with very few options. Someone in this thread said the Salsa scene in LOS ANGELES was too small. Sheez! Surely LA boasts the largest or second largest Salsa scene in the U.S.
I think dance is one of the most wonderful parts of life, yet I also have many other interests. So I would love to find a dancer for a partner - but not someone who lives only to dance.
One solution is to connect with someone who isn't a Salsa dancer but wants to learn. Another would be to visit another country with a different social scene. Imagine some Latin country where 90% of the population dances Salsa, in addition to their other studies, careers and hobbies. (It would be great to find someone who could teach me Salsa and Spanish at the same time!)
In the meantime, I tend to be more attracted to beginners, partly because I'm not yet a good dancer but also because I don't perceive them as being part of any clique, or the "Salsa establishment." Yet I seldom see them more than once. Is that because the great majority of people give up on Salsa, or is it just a symptom of the economy? (I ran into a couple several weeks ago who were in love with Salsa but said they couldn't afford lessons.)
Frankly, I find this topic a little scary - what hope is there? Of course, one can always expand one's horizons by learning another dance, like Cha Cha or Merengue. I've met several women I was attracted to who said they like Swing more than Salsa. But I think I'm addicted to Latin music.
