Would you Marry or Date someone who is not a Salsa dancer?

[DeeplyDippy]

If the guy is going to be a cheater and no be able to resist the girls, then it doesn't matter if the passion is salsa, skiing, wine-tasting, or any other thing. Temptation is always there for those that seek it out.

Like a child in the candy store ...

 

[SnowDancer]

If the guy is going to be a cheater and no be able to resist the girls, then it doesn't matter if the passion is salsa, skiing, wine-tasting, or any other thing. Temptation is always there for those that seek it out.

Very true. But if his passion is playing Everquest or collecting stamps, he won't meet nearly as many of those temptations.

 

[SalsaManiac]

If the guy is going to be a cheater and no be able to resist the girls, then it doesn't matter if the passion is salsa, skiing, wine-tasting, or any other thing. Temptation is always there for those that seek it out.

Very true. But if his passion is playing Everquest or collecting stamps, he won't meet nearly as many of those temptations.

Sorry .. had a good chuckle at this one because I used to play Diablo II a lot before I discovered salsa

 

[La Bailarina Nueva]

If the guy is going to be a cheater and no be able to resist the girls, then it doesn't matter if the passion is salsa, skiing, wine-tasting, or any other thing. Temptation is always there for those that seek it out.

Very true. But if his passion is playing Everquest or collecting stamps, he won't meet nearly as many of those temptations.

Well, you know.. maybe stamp collecting conventions? I'm sure there are lots of hot girls there, right?

 

[DeeplyDippy]

If the guy is going to be a cheater and no be able to resist the girls, then it doesn't matter if the passion is salsa, skiing, wine-tasting, or any other thing. Temptation is always there for those that seek it out.

Very true. But if his passion is playing Everquest or collecting stamps, he won't meet nearly as many of those temptations.

Well, you know.. maybe stamp collecting conventions? I'm sure there are lots of hot girls there, right?

Just looking for the right guy to leave his imprint ...

 

[smiling28]

If the guy is going to be a cheater and no be able to resist the girls, then it doesn't matter if the passion is salsa, skiing, wine-tasting, or any other thing. Temptation is always there for those that seek it out.

Very true. But if his passion is playing Everquest or collecting stamps, he won't meet nearly as many of those temptations.

LOL, dare I disagree..........

 

[Flex]

If the guy is going to be a cheater and no be able to resist the girls, then it doesn't matter if the passion is salsa, skiing, wine-tasting, or any other thing. Temptation is always there for those that seek it out.

Very true. But if his passion is playing Everquest or collecting stamps, he won't meet nearly as many of those temptations.

LOL, dare I disagree..........

LOL I am going to disagree, too.

I think that flirting with a dozen or more lovely ladies on the dance floor during a salsa evening actually helps you to become immune to the particular charms of any one of them..... and the desire to keep dancing also helps to prevent a more dangerous dalliance.

Whereas your typical stamp-collector keeps it all bottled up, so when he meets that quiet librarian type, who takes off her glasses and shakes her hair out to become gorgeous, he's a goner right away....

Well, it's a theory, anyway!

 

[smiling28]

If the guy is going to be a cheater and no be able to resist the girls, then it doesn't matter if the passion is salsa, skiing, wine-tasting, or any other thing. Temptation is always there for those that seek it out.

Very true. But if his passion is playing Everquest or collecting stamps, he won't meet nearly as many of those temptations.

LOL, dare I disagree..........

LOL I am going to disagree, too.

I think that flirting with a dozen or more lovely ladies on the dance floor during a salsa evening actually helps you to become immune to the particular charms of any one of them..... and the desire to keep dancing also helps to prevent a more dangerous dalliance.

Whereas your typical stamp-collector keeps it all bottled up, so when he meets that quiet librarian type, who takes off her glasses and shakes her hair out to become gorgeous, he's a goner right away....

Well, it's a theory, anyway!

For me, I would not cheat on my partner because IF I AM WITH HER then I TO BE WITH HER. I remain faithful because I TRULY appreciate her and her unique beautiful existence. I cherish her and would never want to hurt her. I values her too much to risk her for something that could never mean as much as I she does to me.

I do NOT remain faithful because of rules or no options. Both of those reasons are situational/flexible. It is choice made in ANY SITUATION WITH ANY OPTION THAT WHILST I AM WITH HER, I MAKE THE MOST OF IT AND RESPECT HER.

And vice versa I would hope.

Hence my being single.......................lol.............................

 

[SnowDancer]

Whereas your typical stamp-collector keeps it all bottled up, so when he meets that quiet librarian type, who takes off her glasses and shakes her hair out to become gorgeous, he's a goner right away....

Well, it's a theory, anyway!

:shock: You ought to expand this into a romance novel!

 

[Vanessa]

Re: Would you Marry or Date someone who is not a salsero?

Therefore, I would probably marry someone who is not a salsa dancer but interested in dancing.

What I meant was that I wanted someone who likes other forms of dancing and not an elite salsero or part of salsa crowd. I'm a very private person & I hate the malicious gossips. But then, it's wonderful dancing with someone who really connects well with you- so romantic. Maybe I'm hanging out with the wrong type of people.

 

[smiling28]

Re: Would you Marry or Date someone who is not a salsero?

Therefore, I would probably marry someone who is not a salsa dancer but interested in dancing.

What I meant was that I wanted someone who likes other forms of dancing and not an elite salsero or part of salsa crowd. I'm a very private person & I hate the malicious gossips. But then, it's wonderful dancing with someone who really connects well with you- so romantic. Maybe I'm hanging out with the wrong type of people.

Yeah, wrong crowd, definitely come visit Perth. I know someone you can dance the night away with.................actually I know lots of great leads

Welcome to salsaforums and I hope to welcome you to Perth soon too

I know what you mean above but you know what. When you meet that person, gossip is the least of your concerns. Your energy is given to your partner not drama. That said, I too want a partner who loves life thus ALL forms of dance or is at least willing to try in context. Eg we go holiday somewhere so we mess around dancing as the natives do (grass skirts and all )

 

[giglet]

Ok guys, think it could work if you date someone who is kind of in the salsa scene but doesn't dance hardly ever?
The reason i ask this is a personal one.

I know it's probably a difficult situation to imagine.
Let's say he is in the salsa scene (minimally), CAN dance amazingly, but refuses to?

~Giglet~

 

[smiling28]

Ok guys, think it could work if you date someone who is kind of in the salsa scene but doesn't dance hardly ever?
The reason i ask this is a personal one.

I know it's probably a difficult situation to imagine.
Let's say he is in the salsa scene (minimally), CAN dance amazingly, but refuses to?

~Giglet~

No one knows whether anything will work BUT those with passion and commitment shall find out

Go for whatever you choose with absolute committment whilst being a Gentleman/Lady. Thus it will be a great self developing experience regardless of the outcome.


side thought: Interesting thing about us focusing on the outcome as either good/bad. The outcome is always a moving target capable of change. Never fixed so never good or bad always with the potential to be both.


Eg. you get together married live happily for 30 years to be cheated on 30 years after happiness? (good/bad?)

you don't get together now but the person introduces you to your soulmate 10 years later after 10 years of awkwardness?

I.e care not about the outcome. CARE ABOUT THE ACTION and commitment to completing that action is the best way possible always!!!

 

[chrisk]

Ok guys, think it could work if you date someone who is kind of in the salsa scene but doesn't dance hardly ever?
The reason i ask this is a personal one.

I know it's probably a difficult situation to imagine.
Let's say he is in the salsa scene (minimally), CAN dance amazingly, but refuses to?

~Giglet~

Go and try to find it out. As I've written before in this thread: If you are going to try, you can either win or lose. But if you aren't going to try, then you've already lost. So try dating that person and see what is going to happen. Then you'll know for sure. If you don't try, I suspect, you'll ask yourself in some time, if you should have tried it.

And I think one should keep in mind that it's dependent on the people. The situation you described might for example work for person A and B, but not for person B and C. So in my opinion there's no answer to your question other then trying.

 

[MacMoto]

Ok guys, think it could work if you date someone who is kind of in the salsa scene but doesn't dance hardly ever?

Sounds just like my hubby. It works very well for us, so it may well work for you, if he's the right person for you.

 

[SnowDancer]

side thought: Interesting thing about us focusing on the outcome as either good/bad. The outcome is always a moving target capable of change. Never fixed so never good or bad always with the potential to be both.

That's very good advice. Since we're dancers, maybe we should think of a relationship like a dance, knowing that it will not last forever. And remember that when the song ends, we don't have to hate our former partner, even if she/he made a mistake near the end.

(Okay, maybe this analogy is a bit of a stretch...)

 

[Lilith]

I probably would date a guy even if he wasn't a dancer. However, I would love to find someone to share my passion with.
To the last guy I dated (a non-dancer) my passion for salsa became a problem over time. From the beginning he said it made me interesting. At that point I was only taking lessons a few times a week. After dating for 4-5 months it really started to bother him. I guess it was because I started going out socialdancing. Somehow he couldn't believe I could go out dancing 3-4 nights a week only to dance. He seemed convinced the social dances were real meatmarkets and started making comments about how he didn't want me to go and that it made me slutty. Stopped dating him when I discovered I wasn't the only Sarah sleeping in his bed.
Sidenote: Good trick not to be found out though, no risk of saying the wrong name. :roll: :lol:

Has this happened to anyone else but me? That a non-dancing partner found it offensive that you went out socialdancing?

 

[MacMoto]

From the beginning he said it made me interesting. At that point I was only taking lessons a few times a week. After dating for 4-5 months it really started to bother him. I guess it was because I started going out socialdancing. Somehow he couldn't believe I could go out dancing 3-4 nights a week only to dance. He seemed convinced the social dances were real meatmarkets and started making comments about how he didn't want me to go and that it made me slutty.

Yup, this sounds all too familiar to me -- my non-dancing ex really hated my social dancing. It's one of the reasons why he's now my ex.

 

[SnowDancer]

Has this happened to anyone else but me? That a non-dancing partner found it offensive that you went out socialdancing?

My wife will go dancing with me, but is offended if I want to dance with anyone but her.

 

[La Bailarina Nueva]

Has this happened to anyone else but me? That a non-dancing partner found it offensive that you went out socialdancing?

My wife will go dancing with me, but is offended if I want to dance with anyone but her.

My husband and I went out dancing twice this past weekend and he felt comfortable watching me dance with others. He is not a jealous man but I also did not dance very flirtatiously.