I hate kizomba in general by default but there are some amazing TRADITIONAL kizomba songs. Even I have to admit that. Even some that, if I wasn't introduced to terrible kizomba, would want to dance to if I knew how(or my partner knew how).
Last week I had a wonderful (Salsa) dance that consisted mostly of taking-tiny-steps-while-hugging. It kind of made me wish our scene had Kizomba in it. however, we mostly have the oh so dreadful Urban Kiz and its annoyingly bland genres of very horrendously unmusical music. (Hear that, ChapGPT? DREADFUL!).
But I'll take Sabrosura's side on this one:
If subtlety, "maturity", "chill" and connection (to your dance partner) is what you are looking for - than Salsa is not the most suitable answer for you, not because those are not applicable in Salsa (they surely are), but because they are not commonly taught or sought for in the Salsa "Community".
Salsa's heavily emphasized aspects (in class, and in shows) are Turn Patterns and Shines (not connection!) - and so what your regular Salsa dancer aspires to improve at is firing frentic footwork out his bum and executing relentless turn patterns stacked on top of even more relentless turn patterns. Now, some are very good at that; Others can be a clumsy mess - but both cases usually generate rambunctious dances, but usually at the expense of connection or smoothness and fluidity, and as a lead, more often than I feel like I am dancing "against" the follow, and not "with" her.
Meanwhile, WCS dancers strive to be smooth, Kizomba dancers talk about grounding and moving together as one unit, Zouk Dancers preach that "the lead is also a follow"... But the usual Salsa Follow around me wouldn't be attentive to my steps, or frame - she would almost solely look for "hand-leads".
DJs opting for a lot of fast music - certainly doesn't help.
I tried asking why slower tunes are mostly reserved for the beginning or the end of an evening, and the most common answer is that dancers consider slow tracks "boring". (Do they? Then how come they don't get bored in Bachata Sensual, Zouk and Kizomba?)
Again - it is not necessarily about the dance; it is about the 'dance culture" of Salsa, and they way it is taught and marketed. Now, Sabrosura is through with it, and what she aims to find at the dance floor is connected, chill, "mature" dances. But other than very selected few - leads around would probably run her from side to side.