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Son Montuno
1.5
Ppl are taught it's after the 1, so they think it's immediately after the 1 and give no regard to the timing of where the two actually is. Ppl are stepping on the "And" if you count it like, 1-And-2.
Agreed that there's room for how to align the steps with the beat. But surely it's possible to stay exactly with the alignment you've chosen even if the song is fast? I'd be quite upset with the musicians if they didn't manage, and I don't see the fundamental difference between stepping and playing an instrument.
My thoughts on this concept is that it may be different as to what an audience sees as compared to what a dancing couple is doing. As @Offbeat stated, if the couple is in "agreement" to step slightly late it will look like they are dancing on the next half beat to an outsider.
Fwiw, I have often danced with follows who are a bit slower than the beat and I am not able to hit it where I want to hit it. In those situations, I give up on doing any fancy footwork or fancy moves as being late or being early feels wrong to me.
By contrast, a follow who attempts to rush the step is much easier for me to adjust. I just engage with a more solid lead (example: a double hand hold).