May be it is not for you. Or you haven’t yet figured out creating connection and hearing the music at the same time.
Your comments were not directed at me but they resonate with my own questions leading up to this "I'm flipped" attitude. It's true that conversing on forums it's impossible to know someone's level of actual implementation of their opinions without seeing them dance. I'm sure most often then if we would see someone dance they will appear to fall short. Probably because I only watch good dancers and I've gotten used to that. So I kinda' assume everyone who comes across as having an educated opinion on salsa is at least my level or higher or much higher, and then have to keep reminding myself this is not the case. I've been very hard on myself with salsa, I'm my biggest critic. While there are certainly holes in my game, I feel I've satisfied my salsa goals. I refuse to pursue perfection and more patterns (can't remember them anyways anymore) and mimicking the "right" body movement. My growth in salsa is now from the inside, my inside. And I often find myself improvising a figure spontaneously (when dancing with good connection) and registering that it's the first time I've done it, immediately followed by "I think I've seen this before but never practiced it", followed by "Sh1t I couldn't pull this off again if I wanted to". I'm a social dancer not a performer. So when I say I'm moving to other dances it's not because I couldn't hack salsa. It's because the other dances offer more opportunity for creativity and expression through a better connection with the follower. It could be argued that it's because the music is slower, or because it's an easier dance so more followers are attracted to it so there's a larger pool of people for good followers to emerge from. I think the reason comes from style. There are things that are acceptable in the other dances that are conducive to connection that are not acceptable in salsa. I've demonstrated close embrace and apilado to some salseras and they were very uncomfortable with it.You are with your own comments proving the point that those who find salsa difficult gravitate to BS
That said I always argue salsa is the hardest dance. Harder than tango. Simply because of the complexity of the music and because everything you do has to fit within it. In tango you just do whatever you want, the rhythm is so simple, and phrasing is easily distinguishable. But the actual leading is more complex.. dissociation etc. As a matter of fact one of the most difficult concepts to implement is that in a sense a leader is actually following half the time.