But if he is changing the beat willy-nilly without any regard to any rhythm or instrument, then I will definitely call him out on it.
If he danced willy-nilly, he wouldn't survive in the scene. And definitely not get as many good dances from good followers as he did
Since you say his dancing is good and that he is popular, then his partners must be able to follow him well enough not to get confused. So he's probably following some standard convention of counting that everyone else subscribes to..
We are not talking about counting. More about which beat he would break on. That was his point of argument. You can argue that changing how he breaks changes the count. You can be in the rhythm while changing the count on which you are dancing (that is breaking or whatever else you want to call it). I see may latinos as well who are not consistent either but will have plenty of sabor and good rhythm when they dance.
I always say I dance to the music, but I know that internally I'm dancing to a beat and that beat corresponds to some number. As long as I transmit that information clearly to my partner, then we won't have any problems dancing together.
Dance to the music is not necessary same as dancing to the count. First what exactly is the definition of dancing to the count? If you take 5 steps (or weight transfers) instead of 6 steps in salsa QQS-QQS in a 8 beat structure -> are you dancing to the count or not ?

