There are so many ways to make an uncomfortable (The apologying low-self-esteem type) follow feel good (Got no time ot elaborate ATM), but while I do say alot: "My fault",
I disagree that it's allways the man that's on the worng.
I do agree, that most of the time, when it's the girl's fault, it is also the guy's as well. (Because while she's "to blame", he could've seen things coming and make that not-happen to begin with. I.E: Spin a girl who can't spin, forcing hard routines on a girl who can't keep up and stay balanced),
BUT
1) If a girl dangerously hijacks / follows unxpectedly incorrectly, and something bad (Which you weren't supposed to be able to predict) happens - you can't be at fault here. (I had one serious incident with that type, and I swear - I could've never forseen it, nor "save" her on timee. By the time she did it had already been way too late. I'm glad no one god injured, but it was...that close. That girl later screamed at me and gave me a horrible lecture.
(When I dance On2, and the girl suddenly breaks back on the 1 by mistake, I stop my movement and harden my left arm (holding her right) and keep it at place, like a strong wall. As a result the follower feels stronger resistance the more she goes forward, so usually they "meet the wall" on the 3, step backwards on the 5, and then break back on the 6. Fixed!~ Works like a charm. Everytime...)
Except that one time, in an On2 exclusive party,
when the girl suddenly took a huuuuuge step backwards on the 1, which I absolutely didn't lead. She seriously launched herself forward. Then I did my usual thing to gradually absorb her force and redirect her back,
but in
complete contrary to my lead, she kept going forward, threw my hand and procceeded in a beautifully done free-spin...ending with her nose about a CM (I am not exaggerating here) away from a different follower.
Against my lead, she stepped backwards on the wrong bit, big time, created huge tension, then against my lead she marched forward, and against my lead threw my hand and started spinning...This was so unpredictable, and happened so fast, and with such momentum - I could not catch her on time (nor see it coming).
But I guess it's always the guy's fault.
Many Cuban-Salsa girls who are trained to break back on1 actually CAN follow a: "Forward-forward-forward" type of leading pretty well.
But once in a while, a girl may go auto-pilot or lose concentratio nfo a sec and then break back, sometimes even if you actively lead her somewhere else. If that happens and the girl bumps into another couple, then again - I rarely have enough time to save them. (But I dance a really relaxed Casino, and stay away from frezny-mode couples, so never has it ended in injury).
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2) Girls should know how to maintain their balance. That's an important technical skill and if they can't do it (And therefore not look good) you can't say it's my fault. It's not something I ca ntake responsibility for.
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I like to find my faults, and even when it's the girl's fault, I like to see how I as a lead could've done something in advance to prevent it. (This is: "My fault" for not being good enough not to make the girl be at fault, maybe?)
I find it educational (for me) and it helps me improve...
But when a girl goes: "It's always his fault" and takes it seriously, she actually does the opposite.
I think that the: "It's always the guys fault" mantra is a disservice to the girl.