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  1. Bostontraitor

    Leader's blacklist

    Social butterflies are waiting for you to boost their egos.
  2. Bostontraitor

    Leader's blacklist

    The more you dance, the more your skill grows. You gain more options, your patience drops, and you have less time for each follower's bs.
  3. Bostontraitor

    Leader's blacklist

    I don’t ask more than twice in one night. There are plenty of followers in my city, so I try not to take it personally. Still, it’s hard not to take it personally when someone dances with everyone except me. lol
  4. Bostontraitor

    Leader's blacklist

    I tend to think having a blacklist for both leaders and followers makes sense. It saves time and avoids awkward moments, especially for leaders. In my city, there are five followers I won’t ask again. I’ve never talked with them, danced with them, or known them outside the club. Let me repeat...
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    On 3

    I couldn't tell I was dancing on 1 or on 3 since I could only hear cowbell.
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    RIP DJ Yuca

    Just a while ago he replied to my post. He's knowledgable about salsa musicality and very patient. RIP dude.
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    How do you feel about Bachata?

    Sensual bachata borrows elements from Zouk, so Zoukchata isn’t really hard to understand. It simply depends on how much Zouk and how much bachata is blended into the dance. I’ve danced bachata with Zouk dancers and Zouk with sensual bachata dancers, and everyone has been very open minded.
  8. Bostontraitor

    Beginner lead: confidence in the first few dances

    First step: find a girl who actually likes you. Once she likes you, she won’t care if you mess up or aren’t great yet. That alone kills most of the anxiety. Next, learn more moves and get comfortable with them. Practice mixing and matching them in different ways instead of running the same...
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    What would it take for salsa to have a revival?

    https://www.facebook.com/share/r/1JkBrcKpCC/?mibextid=wwXIfr
  10. Bostontraitor

    Rejection Sensitivity

    Haha, I saw her at the dance club tonight. I ended up dancing right next to her once, and after that, we just looked at each other, looked away, and walked off. Lol, kind of like a silent mutual agreement. I’ve been dancing for years now. If my lead were unpleasant, someone would’ve told me by...
  11. Bostontraitor

    Rejection Sensitivity

    I tell you what, I’ll dance with someone’s daughter all day, but I steer clear of girlfriends and wives. I don’t need some dude staring me down from across the floor.
  12. Bostontraitor

    Rejection Sensitivity

    I think the best REAL rejection is: No thanks. Simple, direct, no hidden meaning.
  13. Bostontraitor

    Rejection Sensitivity

    Not five times in one night—five different occasions, if I was not very clear. Honestly, like Mambojazz said, she probably doesn’t even realize how many times I’ve asked. She’s not keeping count, but I am. Gotta know when to stop, right? I don’t dislike her or anything, and it’s pretty clear...
  14. Bostontraitor

    Rejection Sensitivity

    In a perfect world, it’d be nice to just dance with everyone in my city, be cool with everyone, have fun, especially with the people I see at the club all the time. But like Mambojazz said, the truth is, we don’t really need each other. We’ve both got plenty of people to dance with, and one...
  15. Bostontraitor

    Rejection Sensitivity

    All possible. I have never danced with her before. Guess I never will.
  16. Bostontraitor

    Rejection Sensitivity

    Sometimes "I think I am good" with a smirk is not a good response.
  17. Bostontraitor

    Rejection Sensitivity

    There’s this really good looking girl in my city, and she’s turned me down five times now. I talked to a friend about it, and he told me not to take it personally since she dances with everyone. But honestly, every time I ask, she’s either “on break” or about to leave, and she won’t make eye...
  18. Bostontraitor

    Rejection Sensitivity

    "Thank you for respecting yourself!" ?? Mroe like "go respect yourself!"
  19. Bostontraitor

    Rejection Sensitivity

    Oh wow, that’s interesting. I never really thought about how that kind of thing might put a little pressure on the person you ask for the next dance. For me, I usually don’t ask anyone once the song’s past the one-minute mark, unless it’s a close friend or someone I dance with all the time...
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