Would you Marry or Date someone who is not a Salsa dancer?
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EMOYENO
Son
Now this is a question!!
Are they willing to explore my passion for Salsa?
Would I try to teach them my passion for Salsa, dancing, music?
SIIIIIIIIIIIIIII I would try.
It it was love at first sight then it may be too late, but would people spend the time required to develop the relationship with someone who wouldn't share their passion?
EMOYENO
Son
This isnt a quick decision to make... I believe you give it a try, as would the other person. It's all about trials.
Hm, aren't you assuming here that one meets the love of his life in a totally non-salsa related activity? Also I've got the feeling that you're here talking about love on first sight compared to love that develops because you get to know a person and spend more time with them. In the situations that I just mentioned it's quite likely that the person has at least an interest in listening to salsa and maybe even to learn to dance if they don't already.
SirDancealot
Changui
While I'd agree broadly with the sentiment I'd suggest that in the real world such things aren't pure 'fate' as romantic fiction and hollywood would have people believe. Sure there's an element of chance but there is also a large component of knowing what you want in life then going out there and gettingt it...and though I'd agree conceptually with the idea of being open to whatever opportunities life brings you I'd suggest that things are *much* more likely to go the way you want them to if you actually know precisely what you're looking for and go out into the world armed with that knowlege. As for myself I'm quite confident that anything serious with a non-salsera wouldn't work out. That said finding something serious isn't where I am in my life right now making the discussion somewhat hypothetical for me at is stage!
I'm not sure if I qualify here, as I was married for 3 years by the time I discovered salsa, but the Mr is awesome. When we met I was still having troubles after several injuries (netball - just don't do it lol) and had to stop dancing a few months into the relationship. I didn't realise how much not dancing affected me until I took up salsa & my husband made a comment about how I was "back to normal" :lol:
The only annoying part is that we initially hooked up because I saw him dancing at a nightclub & thought daaaaaaamn he's cute, since he proposed he seems to have forgotten how to dance
His main issue is that he is easily embarrassed with dancing, especially if there are people he knows around. Fingers crossed that one day he'll take a private lesson with me!I'm very lucky that despite his dancing amnesia, he is happy for me to go out dancing whenever I want & he is not the jealous type. He's come to watch occasionally & gets along with all of my salsa buddies so it's all good!
Good idea and I wish you that it won't be a single lesson, but many more. And if you continue the private lesson with practicing at home together, he will hopefully get the basic down quickly so no need to feel embarassed going to out together for some salsa.
So he already likes the music? Hm, now one you're so addicted that you play the music in your house, I wonder how long he'll be able to keep his feet still, when he's been dancing before.
I wouldn't say that... We actually bonded through a love of a very different genre of music *cough* heavy metal *cough* He's a friendly guy (albeit shy) so gets along with most people, so that's where he finds his enjoyment. Well, that & watching me I suppose
Actually, he does grab me & does his version of a right turn if there's music on at home, which I love!
olamalam
Son Montuno
I wouldn't say that... We actually bonded through a love of a very different genre of music *cough* heavy metal *cough* He's a friendly guy (albeit shy) so gets along with most people, so that's where he finds his enjoyment. Well, that & watching me I suppose
No need to cough
I love Swedish death metal (yes, there's a genre with that name) but I'm a salsa addict!!!
wonderwoman
Son
I'm thinking that I might prefer dating a non-dancer. Maybe its better if your social lives don't BOTH revolve around the same scene. But one thing I definitely couldn't do is date someone who thinks he can dance but can't.. a guy I dated had been dancing longer than me and he said to me "I think I have the beat down" he was always off-time. I don't get it.
Having the beat down in your head and actually able to step to it - two different things. Try dancing with musicians who play in salsa band .. some can be very off time in their dancing
Other than that many people mistakenly believe they have the beat down, when they don't.
Kromat83
Changui
I am bringing back an old thread, almost 2.5 years since the last post, heheh.
She doesn't specifically have to be a salsa dancer, but has to be interested in dancing and if she had a feel for it, even better.
I would love to be able to learn/improve on lots of styles, like : Salsa, Bachata, Merengue, Cha Cha, Rumba, Samba, Zouk, English Waltz, Argentine Tango.
I've also done Jive, Viennese Waltz, Fox Trot, Quickstep .... but they don't interest me as much.
There's still lots that I can improve on, and don't think I would stop dancing these entirely for her, she wouldn't know how much it means to me, so I need someone that is understanding.
Hopefully she is out there, I'll have to take my opportunities when they come.
She doesn't specifically have to be a salsa dancer, but has to be interested in dancing and if she had a feel for it, even better.
I would love to be able to learn/improve on lots of styles, like : Salsa, Bachata, Merengue, Cha Cha, Rumba, Samba, Zouk, English Waltz, Argentine Tango.
I've also done Jive, Viennese Waltz, Fox Trot, Quickstep .... but they don't interest me as much.
There's still lots that I can improve on, and don't think I would stop dancing these entirely for her, she wouldn't know how much it means to me, so I need someone that is understanding.
Hopefully she is out there, I'll have to take my opportunities when they come.
alexanderthegreat
Changui
I think for the most part, many who do not understand or are afraid to let the secret out that they just don't know how to dance will make "any" excuse not to even try. Not just for Salsa, most times, dancing in general. Dancing has nothing to with the color of your skin, your "private" lifestyle or whatever! For those who don't wan't to dance, they'll think of any excuse, no matter how totally false and dumb it may be. I had an Ex-husband like that. Yeah, that's why he's my EX-husband! :evil: Anyways, I'm not downing on anyone, just their comments. I've heard those comments before and they are not only "untrue", they are just plain dumb. :? Sorry, sore subject. I'm better now. :lol:
If a guy is not a dancer, particularly a "Salsa Dancer", there's a 90% chance that it just won't work for me. That 10%? Well, I still don't know.
Interestingly enough, there are other threads on here, in which some people are against dating within the dance world.. makes no sense to me.
calichris10
Son Montuno
Me neither! Its natural. If you have chemistry with someone on the dance floor you begin to wonder what it would be like off the dance floor. I have dated, and even met my future husband in salsa
but if its an informal relationship it is smart to keep it discreet until you know if its serious or not. I think its Crazy with a capital C when people say that noone dates/hooks up in their scene. And that people are there just to dance. May be true for some but in general, nah.
timberamayor
Son Montuno
Short answer: Yes
Me neither! Its natural. If you have chemistry with someone on the dance floor you begin to wonder what it would be like off the dance floor. I have dated, and even met my future husband in salsa
People who say that are the people who don't hook up/don't want to hook up and don't see the things happening around them. I've heard people say that, but I just tell them "you wouldn't believe the stuff that happens behind the scenes".
But to the original question, sure, but it might be hard to find anyone cool enough to understand why I want to spend my nights and weekends dancing with other women. One can hope though.