TrulyMadlyAmanda
Changui
RTFLMAO. all really funny, but the jail gag was my favourite (possibly since i was getting letters from a crazy guy in prison at one point....looooong story!).
Should you/how to act on a crush in the dance scene?
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RTFLMAO. all really funny, but the jail gag was my favourite (possibly since i was getting letters from a crazy guy in prison at one point....looooong story!).
lol with my luck the girl would break down into tears and run off. Then one of her friends would come up and slap me saying 'her boyfriend's blind you dolt, he has never been able to see what she looks like'
Cue Smiling28 walking off with tail between legs
saying 'I am sorry, I am not REALLY interested, its just been SOOOO long (start drooling) since I saw a real woman.*do your reggaeton moves then get all quiet and say 'I mean jail was tough man' (start crying like a baby).
*she should have run off by then which makes it easier and less awkward for everyone than if she had stuck around for an awkward silence after she declined when you asked her out
*nods head*
I want to have what you had !! You seem to be on the roll today.
sweavo
Changui
Me too! but make it a half.
Lol - thank you, you just reminded me I have a piece of chocolate cake sitting in my car from last night's birthday party lol
Mmmmm, chocolate cake to be shared through the net to Salsa forums................or not
*does gollum impersonation over chocolate cake.....hiss, my p-r-e-c-i-o-us..........
TrulyMadlyAmanda
Changui
you're both funny!
Mmmmm, chocolate cake to be shared through the net to Salsa forums................or not
*does gollum impersonation over chocolate cake.....hiss, my p-r-e-c-i-o-us..........
dont make me come over there and cut off your finger for cake...!
Let me start that this is simply what’s the general end of this kind of discussion with friends after quite some alcoholic drinks, and not what’s true or not.
*joins the talking-the-talk-, but not walking-the-walk-group*
When reading the replies i’m guessing there are two general sides on this:
1: Make your intentions clear at the start
2: Try to disguise it (through joking)
Personally, i think both sides are wrong.
1 You don’t need to make your intentions known at the start, everyone enjoys a bit of mystery and knowing EVERYTHING from the start will be a bit boring. What IS important is that YOU know YOUR intentions from the start (friends/lovers dilemma)!
2 This is a problem from the start. You joke about it, other jokes with you, you think you’re going great, the other is having fun and at the end the other throws a “I thought you were joking”.
One of the biggest problems is that there are two mindsets:
1 Flirting
2 Seduction
Since both a closely related, a lot of problems arise from it. At least that’s what i learned the hard way
I’d advice you friend to either
1 Befriend the friends of the girl and take it from there
or
2 Dance/Talk with her a few times, see how the click goes and take it from there
There’s some other stuff, but this is enough of useless advice me guesses
*joins the talking-the-talk-, but not walking-the-walk-group*
When reading the replies i’m guessing there are two general sides on this:
1: Make your intentions clear at the start
2: Try to disguise it (through joking)
Personally, i think both sides are wrong.
1 You don’t need to make your intentions known at the start, everyone enjoys a bit of mystery and knowing EVERYTHING from the start will be a bit boring. What IS important is that YOU know YOUR intentions from the start (friends/lovers dilemma)!
2 This is a problem from the start. You joke about it, other jokes with you, you think you’re going great, the other is having fun and at the end the other throws a “I thought you were joking”.
One of the biggest problems is that there are two mindsets:
1 Flirting
2 Seduction
Since both a closely related, a lot of problems arise from it. At least that’s what i learned the hard way
I’d advice you friend to either
1 Befriend the friends of the girl and take it from there
or
2 Dance/Talk with her a few times, see how the click goes and take it from there
There’s some other stuff, but this is enough of useless advice me guesses
Ah, I spy with my little eye (actually they're only small because of me having too little sleep and too many clients to deal with/for)......
Puppy love (aaaah, sob, sob).
Or, when it all turns out te be a waste of his time: "The air reeks of a foul stench. Love? Ha..! Don't make me laugh, Love is a mere mitigating comprehension of the evil manipulative ways of la femme!"
But until then some advice. I've been told I look quite arrogant and 'testosterone-driven'. So it always helped me to just show/tell the girl I liked, how I feel. (Which has proven to show nicely that looks can be deceiving. And btw, not the praise myself to the skies, cause men - therefore I as well - will always be n00bs when it comes to the ladies....I haven't been turned down yet and haven't been without female attention for more than 2 weeks, since the age of 18. So I guess I do do something right.)
You don't have to be mushy (yet), but it doesn't hurt to just tell the specific girl that she brightens up your salsa-experience.
Furthermore acting ignorant, while both knowing that you know exactly what you just did/said, has always worked for me as well. For instance, if the girl has blue eyes...."I really love your eyes, they're so colorish and stuffff, beautiful dark looking brown" while giving her 'the eye'. (after cassualy having said before - like an hour ago - 'Your eyes are blue, right?'). This might not be the best example......So I'll give you another one...Open the door for her, and act clumsy, by shutting the door in front of the next person's face (of course open it afterwards ;-). Emphasize that you feel comfortable enough to act stupid (blunt - NOT RUDE - jokes etc), but nonetheless still treat her like the only person that matters. Of course these things only work when the guy already made his first (or even second and third) move.
So in brief:
Just ask her to go for a drink. If she wants to dance first, tell her you don't want to dance (yet), because a dance could never tell her what you have in mind. If she wants to know what you mean, get a drink, go outside and tell her. C'est simple!!
If she subsequently gives the cold shoulder, her momma should have been around more to raise a lady, instead of a brat. I can imagine it would hurt (after building up your hopes, managing your nerves etc etc), but nonetheless if the girls says 'no', it's her loss! Basta!
Puppy love (aaaah, sob, sob).
Or, when it all turns out te be a waste of his time: "The air reeks of a foul stench. Love? Ha..! Don't make me laugh, Love is a mere mitigating comprehension of the evil manipulative ways of la femme!"
But until then some advice. I've been told I look quite arrogant and 'testosterone-driven'. So it always helped me to just show/tell the girl I liked, how I feel. (Which has proven to show nicely that looks can be deceiving. And btw, not the praise myself to the skies, cause men - therefore I as well - will always be n00bs when it comes to the ladies....I haven't been turned down yet and haven't been without female attention for more than 2 weeks, since the age of 18. So I guess I do do something right.)
You don't have to be mushy (yet), but it doesn't hurt to just tell the specific girl that she brightens up your salsa-experience.
Furthermore acting ignorant, while both knowing that you know exactly what you just did/said, has always worked for me as well. For instance, if the girl has blue eyes...."I really love your eyes, they're so colorish and stuffff, beautiful dark looking brown" while giving her 'the eye'. (after cassualy having said before - like an hour ago - 'Your eyes are blue, right?'). This might not be the best example......So I'll give you another one...Open the door for her, and act clumsy, by shutting the door in front of the next person's face (of course open it afterwards ;-). Emphasize that you feel comfortable enough to act stupid (blunt - NOT RUDE - jokes etc), but nonetheless still treat her like the only person that matters. Of course these things only work when the guy already made his first (or even second and third) move.
So in brief:
Just ask her to go for a drink. If she wants to dance first, tell her you don't want to dance (yet), because a dance could never tell her what you have in mind. If she wants to know what you mean, get a drink, go outside and tell her. C'est simple!!
If she subsequently gives the cold shoulder, her momma should have been around more to raise a lady, instead of a brat. I can imagine it would hurt (after building up your hopes, managing your nerves etc etc), but nonetheless if the girls says 'no', it's her loss! Basta!
Lol - thank you, you just reminded me I have a piece of chocolate cake sitting in my car from last night's birthday party lol
Mmmmm, chocolate cake to be shared through the net to Salsa forums................or not
*does gollum impersonation over chocolate cake.....hiss, my p-r-e-c-i-o-us..........
You should see my smeagol/gollum impression on youtube... over 13,000 hits ^_^
Just look up "My Precious"
OMG - that was AWESOME!!!!!!!!! You have an AMAZING talent - thanks for sharing.
My only request. PLEASE, please, PLEASE pull off that skit next time a girl says no when you ask her to dance lol. Just do the split personality eg.
bad Rugkutta says to good rugkutta" Seeeeeeeeeeeee, I TOLD YOU SHE HATES US..hissss.
good rugkutta" No, no no. She is just [insert excuse given]
Bad rugkutta: Fool, hissssssssssssss. No one ever means that.
Then keep arguing with yourself as you hobble away.
Ps. Probably not going to end up with ever dancing with the girl above but it would be hilarious for the people who knew what you were doing lol lol
*but I bet no one ever says no to dancing with you