Overcoming Dancing Jealousy ...(come on shouldn't I be too old for this??)

[Offbeat]

Yeah there is a difference between sensual and sexy. What I meant by "sensual" bachata is the close bachata where there is closed position body contact.

From the inside - even with close hold the bachata (or any partner dance) can be either sexy, sensual, or both, or none. It depends on who you are dancing with, you dance and how they dance.

From the outside - a non-dancer can't ever figure out why it can be non-sexy (substitute any dance that has an intimate hold) . They are only looking at the physical movement and interpreting it with their non-dancing brain/head.

 

[Antonino]

DISCLAIMER: As a member of other forums I understand how annoying it can be to continually read the same threads over and over again. I tried to do a search and didn't quite find what I was looking for, thus this post. If I just need to search harder, I'll happily take that council..

I've recently started dating a wonderful girl (the normal story...). We have been dating for a bit more than 5 months. She loves dancing, loves it, and it makes her very happy to dance. And it makes me happy to see her enjoying herself. I have slowly picked up dancing so I can go with her when I am able, however my work and class schedule really limits my time (where we live the social dance places of interest are only open during weekdays.). This leaves a situation where she is wanting to dance, and I am not around to go with her most weeknights, so she will go with dancing friends, most of them guys, and most of them I haven't met. I really think I should be old enough or mature enough for this not to bother me, but I do sense a bit of jealousy inside. I'm not sure if I should be feeling this way. That being said, we have a great relationship, she is always kind and lets me know she wished I could be there, that it isn't as fun without me (that is being extra kind on her part as I am not a very good dancer! lol), but still the jealousy remains. So...

I want her to happy, I want her to continue to do the things she loves, and I want to be supportive of her in those things that are important to her. My question isn't if I should ask her to stop dancing with other men, its just the opposite...does anyone have any advice on becoming OK with their partner dancing with someone of the opposite gender? I can really see a future with her, and I want her to be able to keep dancing long in to her future, but such a inclination to be jealous can be poison to a relationship. All of this is springing up more so recently as it is becoming more and more apparent that my schedule isn't permitting of me to dance most often and she continues to want to dance. I like to think I'm a nice guy who tries to improve weaknesses he sees in himself (my weak dance abilities are an ongoing improvement), and seeing this jealous side of me is very unpleasant.

Thanks for any advice!

there is an article that explain all of this:
dancewme.com/en/blog/has-sensual-bachata-influenced-your-relationship/
The problem is very common in this type of dance

 

[1derpalm]

Even though I used to be. Aman ***** (for free) I never grinded with gals on the floor in my clubbing days. So naturally sensual doesn't draw mw in. And if my nonn dancing life part ef showed up during a sensual dance, evennif it was just a dance, she would feel real insecure. So I opted not to even bother.