Report on my newly started male-male dancing experiments.., after finally convincing a friend that it was the only reasonable thing to do if we weren't going to stay beginners for ever.
I found it silly and amusing he had such problems overcoming this resistance to such an obviously brilliant idea.
Well, I was the woman last time, as I mentioned it was actually quite fun to just relax and enjoy the ride once we got the hang of it. Really valuable insights and ahaaa-experiences.
Once over the initial feeling of disgust, no problem. I feel quite confident I could become a pretty good follow. He said I felt as good as most of the girls at class, a bit on the heavy side.
But today we took turns, switching roles for every second song. I stopped laughing at his homophobia. Turned out I was the loser in this Homo Chicken Race.
Still no problem being the follow, still enjoyed it, but leading him.., oh dear..
He was an awful follow, didn't feel like any woman at all, and having this grotesque individual so close was suddenly more than a bit revolting.
This overwhelming feeling of masculinity - I cringe at the thought. Switching to be the lead suddenly made just touching him clearly unpleasant. Switching back to being the follow - no problem, ladidaa.., dancing away..
As a lead - I couldn't even get the basic steps with ordinary closed hold to feel right, couldn't help myself turning away from him, pushing my shoulders forward, drawing my hips and private parts away.
As soon as he improved a little bit at following some of my feelings of disgust lessened. But they did not go away.
Strange.., I've danced with really ugly wrinkled old fat women, and it's never been even in the neighbourhood of disgusting no matter how badly they danced, their appearance doesn't bother me at all. Leading is still fun if it's a woman.
He didn't have any problem with either role anymore, once we were over the initial touching and got started dancing.
The difference between leading and following is clearly dramatic, when I follow I don't have to focus on him much, just focus on his signals and myself, a kind of introverted activity.
But leading is for real, you have to really focus on the follow, the person, especially a bad follow.
Well well, I am exaggerating a bit - it's not that awful, still doable, and the learning effect for both of us is just too great to ignore, will keep doing it until it's all just fun.
But it is kind of surprising and confusing to me.
I found it silly and amusing he had such problems overcoming this resistance to such an obviously brilliant idea.
Well, I was the woman last time, as I mentioned it was actually quite fun to just relax and enjoy the ride once we got the hang of it. Really valuable insights and ahaaa-experiences.
Once over the initial feeling of disgust, no problem. I feel quite confident I could become a pretty good follow. He said I felt as good as most of the girls at class, a bit on the heavy side.
But today we took turns, switching roles for every second song. I stopped laughing at his homophobia. Turned out I was the loser in this Homo Chicken Race.
Still no problem being the follow, still enjoyed it, but leading him.., oh dear..
He was an awful follow, didn't feel like any woman at all, and having this grotesque individual so close was suddenly more than a bit revolting.
This overwhelming feeling of masculinity - I cringe at the thought. Switching to be the lead suddenly made just touching him clearly unpleasant. Switching back to being the follow - no problem, ladidaa.., dancing away..
As a lead - I couldn't even get the basic steps with ordinary closed hold to feel right, couldn't help myself turning away from him, pushing my shoulders forward, drawing my hips and private parts away.
As soon as he improved a little bit at following some of my feelings of disgust lessened. But they did not go away.
Strange.., I've danced with really ugly wrinkled old fat women, and it's never been even in the neighbourhood of disgusting no matter how badly they danced, their appearance doesn't bother me at all. Leading is still fun if it's a woman.
He didn't have any problem with either role anymore, once we were over the initial touching and got started dancing.
The difference between leading and following is clearly dramatic, when I follow I don't have to focus on him much, just focus on his signals and myself, a kind of introverted activity.
But leading is for real, you have to really focus on the follow, the person, especially a bad follow.
Well well, I am exaggerating a bit - it's not that awful, still doable, and the learning effect for both of us is just too great to ignore, will keep doing it until it's all just fun.
But it is kind of surprising and confusing to me.
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