SENO Plan
I don’t want to hi-jack this thread so let me first give some advice to the OP. The only real way to get over a salsa crush is to get under someone else (lol) or eliminate contact with said person and that usually means stop going to the club or go somewhere else till the feeling subside. Takes a couple months at least. In your situation you are kinda stuck. Bear through it (I know it’s hard) and get out as soon as possible.
Now, tresto, I understand you are skeptical but this has been scientifically proven. Let me explain in detail. To get a relationship started on the right foot, you have to neglect emotionally right from the onset. I like to do this by going on a few really awesome dates and then cutting off contact- even faux break up with her over something trivial. Invite her to coffee and have “the talk” on a bench. Tell her you really like her but her <insert trivial totally fixable non-issue> is a deal breaker. Be firm and resolved. Then don't initiate any more contact and wait. Let some time pass. You don't want her to make an emotionally driven decision so it's best to ignore early phone calls, emails, and texts. Later (minimum 1 week but can last months) if she really likes you and is smart enough to work through conflict in an adult way, she’ll successfully re-initiate and you guys can reconcile. Go from there and enjoy the solid relationship you have found. These girls are keepers.
If you remove the emotional neglect step, it’s going to go bad. You’ll lose her interest or any number of things will happen to ruin it. You might spend tons of time and effort trying to win her over only for her to just run off with some other guy and give you the cold shoulder (she probably wasn’t even really into you but how were you to know??). The odds are way against you without Soplo’s Emotionally Neglect At Onset plan (SENO- pronounced ‘Say No’ - in brasil the A is added so it's SENAO or 'Say Nao'). And yes, I know sometimes it works out without this but the odds are low and the quality tends to be low too. My system works without wasting tons of energy on go nowhere relationships and luke warm girls that are just using you for dates and attention.
So, coming back to my original point, if you really want to ruin it on purpose (stop a girl who is crushing on you), then ramp it up a little with the touchy feely stuff. Open doors, don’t piss her off, encourage her, give her compliments, tell her you miss her a lot, and above all else avoid the crucial early neglect step. Boom, attraction killed.
You all are welcome. Nobody respond to this. I don’t want to hijack the thread. Nothing more can be said on this topic.
**some of you are going to say that only emotional needy girls would put up with the SENO plan. I thought so too but all my data shows completely the opposite. The girls with good heads on their shoulders are the ones who make the cut. The whiny girls, girls with self esteem issues, girls that aren’t really into you or just using you for dates, won’t. They’ll get weeded out when you dump them at the beginning. The few that make it through are the ones who are willing to talk things through and work on the relationship- An amazing quality not easy revealed until tested with the SENO plan. Don’t wait until you’ve invested lots to time, money, and children to find out. Do it right from the start.
I don’t want to hi-jack this thread so let me first give some advice to the OP. The only real way to get over a salsa crush is to get under someone else (lol) or eliminate contact with said person and that usually means stop going to the club or go somewhere else till the feeling subside. Takes a couple months at least. In your situation you are kinda stuck. Bear through it (I know it’s hard) and get out as soon as possible.
Now, tresto, I understand you are skeptical but this has been scientifically proven. Let me explain in detail. To get a relationship started on the right foot, you have to neglect emotionally right from the onset. I like to do this by going on a few really awesome dates and then cutting off contact- even faux break up with her over something trivial. Invite her to coffee and have “the talk” on a bench. Tell her you really like her but her <insert trivial totally fixable non-issue> is a deal breaker. Be firm and resolved. Then don't initiate any more contact and wait. Let some time pass. You don't want her to make an emotionally driven decision so it's best to ignore early phone calls, emails, and texts. Later (minimum 1 week but can last months) if she really likes you and is smart enough to work through conflict in an adult way, she’ll successfully re-initiate and you guys can reconcile. Go from there and enjoy the solid relationship you have found. These girls are keepers.
If you remove the emotional neglect step, it’s going to go bad. You’ll lose her interest or any number of things will happen to ruin it. You might spend tons of time and effort trying to win her over only for her to just run off with some other guy and give you the cold shoulder (she probably wasn’t even really into you but how were you to know??). The odds are way against you without Soplo’s Emotionally Neglect At Onset plan (SENO- pronounced ‘Say No’ - in brasil the A is added so it's SENAO or 'Say Nao'). And yes, I know sometimes it works out without this but the odds are low and the quality tends to be low too. My system works without wasting tons of energy on go nowhere relationships and luke warm girls that are just using you for dates and attention.
So, coming back to my original point, if you really want to ruin it on purpose (stop a girl who is crushing on you), then ramp it up a little with the touchy feely stuff. Open doors, don’t piss her off, encourage her, give her compliments, tell her you miss her a lot, and above all else avoid the crucial early neglect step. Boom, attraction killed.
You all are welcome. Nobody respond to this. I don’t want to hijack the thread. Nothing more can be said on this topic.
**some of you are going to say that only emotional needy girls would put up with the SENO plan. I thought so too but all my data shows completely the opposite. The girls with good heads on their shoulders are the ones who make the cut. The whiny girls, girls with self esteem issues, girls that aren’t really into you or just using you for dates, won’t. They’ll get weeded out when you dump them at the beginning. The few that make it through are the ones who are willing to talk things through and work on the relationship- An amazing quality not easy revealed until tested with the SENO plan. Don’t wait until you’ve invested lots to time, money, and children to find out. Do it right from the start.
