have you ever been fall in love with your teacher of salsa?

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canela_molida

Hello for everybody!
i'd like to discuss about the feelings to salsa teacher. as for me i do have such a problem. all my trainers were handsome, strong, confident and great dancers, of course. so, with the lapse of time i was fallen head over heels in love with them:D but i want to dance only!!!

have you ever been fall in love with your teacher of salsa? haw do you usually cope with such a problem?

thank you for answers in advance;)
 
it has never been a problem. :)

if you can't focus, try switching things around, maybe less close hold dancing for starters.
 
canela_molida said:
as for me i do have such a problem. all my trainers were handsome, strong, confident and great dancers, of course. so, with the lapse of time i was fallen head over heels in love with them:D but i want to dance only!!!
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So you are not really in love with them, only with their dancing? Easy solution: go to the social dancing events you know they will be at and dance with them. :)
 
I am in love with Frankie, Tomas, Jeffery, Fonts, Adolfo. I fall in love with them every time I see them.
What do I do about it? Nothing, enjoy it :D
 
I'm in love with Yoana from yemambo. she introduced me with her bf but i dont care.
looking forward to see her next month in Antalya.
 
It's a great liberating feeling when you can just enjoy the person (the salsa crush) and just leave it at that. That's the key. You have to learn to disconnect to some degree once the dance is over. Then you go marrily on your way. If you are thinking about them and pining for them all the time, you are going to be driven to madness. In the salsa world, dance crushes happen and you should enjoy the moment and experience but don't look forward to more because 99 times out of 100 they don't want anything else other than a good dance and chemistry.

Learning to detach your feelings after the dance is an important skill to develop.
 
The disconnect I've developed (or should I say got beat into me) probably is why I have a hard time dating anyone in the salsa world. I just don't trust the emotions. Any girl that I have considered from the salsa world is either a total newbie or someone whom I've known for a very long time.
 
I think that is a fair point. Not to say that something can't happen or won't happen. If there is something there (actually reciprocal) then salsa or anything else won't stop it though!
 
if you just wanna dance with your teacher and nothing nothing nothing else, than you are not in love with them kkkkkkkkkkk

its just a salsa crush..
 
kbitten said:
if you just wanna dance with your teacher and nothing nothing nothing else, than you are not in love with them kkkkkkkkkkk

its just a salsa crush..
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Yes, I was wondering about that distinction as I read through this thread. Being "in love" is a very strong term, at least in the way that I use those words.

Having a crush on one's Salsa instructor (or any other teacher) is probably somewhat common....but I would imagine that truly falling in love with a Salsa instructor is much more rare. If the OP honestly feels that she has "fallen in love" with 3 or 4 (or more) Salsa instructors, then there may be some unhealthy emotional attachment issues going on. I'm not a psychologist and obviously I don't know any more facts than what were posted in a few sentences to start this thread, but that's my amateur opinion. Still, I'm guessing that the term "in love" may have been used a bit loosely, since the overall grammatical construction of the opening post (or even the thread title) leads me to believe that English is not the poster's native language.
 
Be careful. Teachers often get intrest from lots of women and some have a reputation for sleeping around or having many short relationships.
 
kbitten said:
if you just wanna dance with your teacher and nothing nothing nothing else, than you are not in love with them kkkkkkkkkkk

its just a salsa crush..
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i'd like to clear up the situation:) maybe my first message was too emotional and obscure. i met with my first salsa trainer 2 years ago, i started dancing salsa in his group. he was so confident, so charismatic, so lively and... single:) eventually i started visiting his lessons not only for dancing but also for seeing him.
now i'm the best salsera in his group, he is proud of my progress, but no more. i'm not to his taste. he's had a lot of opportunities to initiate relations or invite me on a date, but he's never done it. i don't want to be boring and clingy, so i don't show him my feeling. i'd like to change my salsa group and try not to meet with my trainer in the nearest future, but we are preparing a number for a festival, so i can't leave my groupe now.
so, yes, i'm in love with him and i want not only dance with him, but i can't.

so, i don't want to tell about my problem, i'm interested in situation in general: how do you usually do with the situation when your teacher attracts you? when he/she is handsome/pretty and smells well:D and dancing with him or her, you can't think about dance:D should you change your group or your teacher in such a case?..
or are you always succeeded in sharing your trainings and your feelings?
 
I find dancing with someone you have feelings for just adds another layer of enjoyment to the dance.. just enjoy it. I've liked one of my Salsa teachers before.. to be fair she did flirt with me and give me loads of attention, which didn't help! (she had a boyfriend too!)
 
When a girl is really interested in me but I'm unavailable or not interested, I'll start complimenting them a lot. Pretty much kills attraction. This won't help in this case but I wanted to throw this bit of wisdom out there. Works. When I have more time, I'll respond in full about how to alleviate salsa crushes.
 
It depends what you call "treating them well".
If it's being a "nice guy" (boring predictable and somewhat passive-aggressive), supplicating needy, over attention and craving attention as if she's some kind of goddess and not just another human being, for sure that will work.

I wouldn't do it though. It kind of messes with your mind and puts you into crap thought/action patterns. Avoiding the person for a little while until things fade out seems like a "cleaner" way of doing things.

My actual definition of treating a person well is considering them as an equal, not being clingy, and so on, which is very different.
 
canela_molida said:
i'm not to his taste. he's had a lot of opportunities to initiate relations or invite me on a date, but he's never done it. i don't want to be boring and clingy, so i don't show him my feeling. i'd like to change my salsa group and try not to meet with my trainer in the nearest future, but we are preparing a number for a festival, so i can't leave my groupe now.
so, yes, i'm in love with him and i want not only dance with him, but i can't.

so, i don't want to tell about my problem, i'm interested in situation in general: how do you usually do with the situation when your teacher attracts you? when he/she is handsome/pretty and smells well:D and dancing with him or her, you can't think about dance:D should you change your group or your teacher in such a case?..
or are you always succeeded in sharing your trainings and your feelings?
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you've been waiting for him to ask you out? This isn't the 1950's, why didn't you just ask him out?
 
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