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troubled1

Changui
Perhaps this is just something about me but I like a girl I dance with. Dancing with her is just different to everyone else; I know she thinks so too. Lovely connection.

Of course, she's already in a relationship with a non-dancer.

This feels dangerous. Past experiences and solutions, please!
 
Yes, it's dangerous for your mental sanity. She's there to *dance* and you already know she's in a relationship--either you stop imagining she's "into you" (she's not) or you stop dancing with her.
 
'Special' dance relationships can be good for a couple of years of dancing. I've had quite a few over the last decade. As long as you don't over step that line of just dancing it can be great.
 
It's going to happen from time to time. Maintain some standards of decorum. Deal with it. Assume everyone is there just to dance which is mostly true.
 
troubled1 said:
I have a feeling lines will be crossed. I hope this dangerous game doesn't end badly...
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Um, can't you just not cross the lines? If you saw a bus coming and you were standing in the middle of the road would you get out of the way or just stand there like "I have a feeling I will be hit by this bus"? I think you should stop dancing with her at least for a while if you don't feel like you can hold yourself back.
 
Not sure if I can completely relate to this as once I find someone I might intruiging in some way is already in a relationship, I usually get turned off pretty quickly, but that's just me.

Lots of other girls in salsa and elsewhere. No one is that special; I realize this more and more these days, the older I get. If you were to really get to know her you'd realize that. Just focus on someone that is actually single. This girl is not in play.
 
troubled1 said:
I have a feeling lines will be crossed. I hope this dangerous game doesn't end badly...
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Regardless of whatever flirtation happens on the dance floor it doesn't mean anything. Even if she is attracted to you it's what happens off the dance floor that counts. Get her talking about her boyfriend, husband or kids and you'll soon find out where her priorities lie.

The fact you're talking about a "dance connection" and not a going-out connection says everything you need to know. Sorry to put it bluntly.
 
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