Creative invitations to dance

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RugKutta

Changui
Just for fun, 'cause I'm on lunch and have time to kill :-)

Sometimes, when I ask a lady to dance, I get creative with it instead of just saying "Would you like to dance?" Here are some examples:

"Can I warm you up?" (I mean warm up as in dancing, but it gets an extra smile when it's cold outside)

"Can I interest you in a dance?"

"Can I borrow/steal you for a dance?"

"Can I convince you to put that drink down and dance with me?"

"Wow, look at that: Great music, plenty of space on the floor... we should make good use of it."

"Hey... I saw you from across the room and uh, you looked like you wanted to dance..."

My reasons vary for doing this: sometimes just to get a laugh or smile out of the lady, sometimes to cure my own boredom and monotony of just saying "Wanna dance?", or sometimes to adapt to the circumstance (i.e. the one about the drink). I usually do this with salseras I already know; ones who I'm sure will take it with humor.

Anyone else have any creative "salsa lines"?
 
"Dance me." Short simple and doesn't waste valuable song time. Not particularly creative...but the one time I asked a guy, "would you like to dance with me" he had me lead. (Good thing he's a friend of mine.)
 
Maybe 10-20% of the time, I don't say anything when asking someone for a dance. Instead I might be using my eyes or hands in combination with other body language.

Somewhat more unusual thing I did last weekend was to ask someone by mouthing from a distance without making a sound. I guess I was lazy and I had never danced with her before, but she walked over to dance with me anyway.
 
I also ussually use body language ... because of loud music. I really do not like to shout my invitations :). With friends all that takes is a smile, eye contact and a slight nod with head.

But once a friend of mine asked me to dance a really nice way. She said "This song is really nice" and smiled at me with a wonderfull and a little bit shy smile.
 
"Don't make me seduce you into a dance" is reserved for special friends

I'm a big fan of "let's get down and dirteh"...also reserved for special friends

Umm there's always the arm sweep, followed by the bow before asking, but that's just not me.

Seriously, I'm already listing to the music so I'll just go over, give an open hand and if that doesn't work, I'll ask simply.
 
GOod thread but a mindblank on my behalf ha ha.

Nothing says I want to dance with you like walking up to a girl, doing your best michael jackson dance moves with the trademark 'aaaaoooooooooooooo' at the end grabbing yourself and saying 'you want some of this!'



But seriously, not sure, just happy to be dancing and more of a spontaneous jokester depending on the situation
 
one way i do it is, once i spot my target, i'll circle her once or so, with suggestive facial expressions. when i get back to face to face, i do a simple shine ending with a spin with my left hand extended, right hand behind my back..no words needed..works almost all the time. if it doesn't, she's forever labeled a snob, and i'll never dance with her again :buttkick:, lol!!
 
'I don't think we have danced yet'... to which she normally responds 'Would you like to?'. And then I have a chance to turn her down, but I never do that ... lol.
 
When i`m in the mood for funkiness :

Just show them my hand in a strong but polite way and with a big smile on my face. Sometimes i go behind the girl and push her on the dance floor and then i go in front of her and wait for her to start dancing :D ( it always works :D ). But the most stupid way i ever invited a girl to a dance was to stand in front of her , lean in a little so my knees are bent and then i just clapped like 2 or 3 times , hard to explain , its like how you call your puppy or cat when u just get home =)) , and then show her my hands and i did this for a couple of weeks until a very nice lady told me "I`M NOT A DOG" and :buttkick: but still was really fun :D couse i did it in a playful way
 
My creative invitation process

1) walk up to said female
2) grunt
3) knock said female over the head with my club
4) drag to cave
5) dance

works every time ;)
 
In Toronto I had a guy walk up behind me, loop his arm under mine and continue walking to the dance floor. Fortunately, his dancing matched his perfect 10 for confidence :)
 
One night I saw a good salsera friend sitting by herself, so I sat down next to her and began to chat w/ her. I wasn't planning on asking her to dance just yet as my intent was initially just to catch up w/ her, but after a few short moments she asked me to dance. When given the choice between dancing and talking, I almost always choose dancing, so of course I said yes. So now, every once in a while, I'll sit down next to a salsera I know and start talking to her, and wait to see if she asks me to dance. It's worked more often than I've expected it to. Again, I only do this w/ salseras who I'm pretty sure understand my sense of humor. I also wouldn't do it during a busy night were someone could easily ask her to dance before my scheme unfolds (I've learned the hard way that being engaged in a conversation does not equal a guaranteed dance. You have to have actually asked...).

Some other non-verbal invitations:

- As I'm leaving the dancefloor from a dance, I'll walk quickly from behind my next victim and slide in front of her and smile. She usually gets the picture, but I'll verbalize it if needed

- I also use the "lock arms and walk to the dancefloor" move
 
I had never given this much thought until I started going to Salsa clubs abroad.
I suppose my English line 'Fancy one?' works well in German ('Haste Lust?')
and in Hungary it's just a matter of stretching out my hand and giving the girl a big smile!
 
I like the no-hands approaches too -- like just making eye contact from the dance floor and doing the whole request-response thing with pantomime. When this works, she is shining before she hits the dance floor. Sometimes you also get creative responses, like faux shyness which you have to play-act overcoming.

Sometimes I'll be in the middle of an extended flirtation like this and someone will ask me to dance, oblivious to the whole thing-in-progress!
 
sweavo said:
Sometimes I'll be in the middle of an extended flirtation like this and someone will ask me to dance, oblivious to the whole thing-in-progress!
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Or perhaps not so oblivious and just making sure it doesn't go any further ;-)

When I dance with people I know I hardly ever say anything. I'll walk up smiling (I tend to do a lot of that anyway :-) ), extend my hand and that's it.

Actually, I have also done this quite a bit with people I don't know. I guess habits get ingrained rather quickly :)

Other times:

"You have been sitting for an awfully long time now. Are you still resting or would you like to dance again?"

"Hi, do you dare dance with somebody who's still learning?" (somehow this sounds better in Dutch than it does in English but I figured most people wouldn't know what the heck I was saying if I started writing in Dutch all of a sudden ;-) )

"Wow! Haven't seen you in ages!!! Let's dance" (reserved for people I haven't seen in ages or people that I danced with 3 songs ago).

"You probably won't believe me but I'm actually really shy and it's very intimidating for me to ask a someone I consider to be a great dancer to dance but . . . ". I'll say this with a smile on my face, while maintaining eye contact and extending my arm. It usually gets me a big smile followed by 'You're right, I don't believe you!', the lady taking my hand and us dancing. The one thing that I always find funny though is that it's actually true and somehow it helps me get past my insecurities and I actually dare ask more experienced dancers to dance with me.
 
bas said:
"Hi, do you dare dance with somebody who's still learning?" (somehow this sounds better in Dutch than it does in English but I figured most people wouldn't know what the heck I was saying if I started writing in Dutch all of a sudden ;-) )
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just do it.. some will understand ;)

I ussually give an open hand and smile with or without the "want to dance with me"..

with ladies I know I'm ussually more informal... some I put an arm around the waist and look at the dancefloor and then at her and then the dancefloor again...
 
As usual, the more you do it, the more the whole thing becomes a non-issue.
People are there to be asked and it's just a dance.

Having said that, I disagree with the notion of just grabbing a woman
and dragging her onto the dance floor without eye contact nor any kind of approval on her part.
(though she might enjoy that if she is in the hairy neanderthal phase of her cycle. allegedly.)
 
I don't care much for long and elaborate invitations. If the guy finds it fun, I'll play along, but in 99% of the time I'll say yes anyway, so, why waste time :D

If I know the guy well I don't mind being led to the dance floor (note, "led" not "dragged" ;) ...). With my favourite partners one look and/or a stretched hand is enough - I'll be running to the dance floor. :D
 
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