Tito Ortos at Mambocity this year did a workshop in different styles of On2. First thing he said: puerto rican on 2, ny on 2, break on 6 break on 2, power 2, everybody's talking about the same thing. Just a slight variation.
What I got from that was not "I'm too dumb to see the difference" what I got was "the similarities are more important than the differences".
I really think ppl have to let go of forward/back on 2/6, and the exact timing of the step before the break step (where exactly between 8 and 1, where between 4 and 5)
If your response to this is "but there has to be an agreement or the moves won't work!" then my answer to that is: he leads; she follows. If you lead or follow is not enough to overcome your preconceptions about timing during the dance, then that is what you have to work on. You either have to increase your lead / follow or reduce your preconceptions.