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I am very uncomfortable with this development. We could just use a sign language and interpret (sign one if I raise my elbow, the follow should do three turns), would you call it dancing? The beauty of the dancing that its more clear than a language. A language has to be learnt by both sides...

I went to a salsa festival (Mumbai suburb) in 2018. So it had dancers from all over India. I was disappointed by the size(the whole festival has 200 people and there were probably 100-120 indians). There were a lot more men than women. Some ladies just watched until some organizers asked them...

This is my perception: Many salsa teachers do not know the lead follow techniques the same way the tango, kizomba or even west coast swing teachers know. In my first west coast swing class the teacher spent a few minutes to show me how soft I have to be. In salsa many never learn how to dance...

When I learned dancing, in my city salsa was the dominant dance. When bachata first came, many girls did not dance it because it was too close. When I first danced kizomba a girl complained to me that I should not dance chest to chest, Then I danced merenge with her in a club and she did not...

Have you ever danced the wrong dance style/genre for a whole song? Last year I was traveling to Lisbon and I saw a Facebook post about a salsa party at a bar. I arrived early and a couple was dancing in the small dancefloor. The music and dance both seemed unfamiliar to me. After they ended the...

Your story is all too common. Some men keep asking the girls over and over and then spin them around and girls seem to enjoy it until they realize that's not dancing (mainly a show off without much regards to the music). There are many girls who do not fall for these show dances. My solution is...

I feel like traditional bachata songs with traditional dance steps is a different thing than what's danced in the name of sensual bachata. For example traditional songs have fast rhythms and soft melodies and harmonies. So it made sense to dance with quick feet and soft body movements. Unless...

No no its not that. Its only for hazmah. Others please ignore. There is one who I asked she said "I am sitting out and right away, she seeks another guy to dance with" I only asked her once (I usually ask a girl second time if I see her in another event, in this case, just one no is enough). A...

I trust my experience more than your assessment. Each of them are there for a reason regardless of whether I am wrong or right. Some are there because they were rude or some other issues. Its my job to make a girl feel invited and if she does not value my effort, I am pretty comfortable with...

What do you do when someone in DNA behaves super nice but don't ask you 1) one asked me video record her dances with another guy and then sat right next to me to show the video 2) Some might say hi. 3) Sometimes they look and makes eye contact. There one person who got into DNA because she said...

When I started I did not go to social dance for the first 7 months (I could do the patterns in the class). At first few socials I was struggling to remember anything. At the end of year 2 or 3, I could watch someone else do a move, try to copy it to some degree. Now after 10+ years I do not...

If you do not want to dance with that person ever "No thank you" would do. If he pushes "No" or walk way. If you are offended "No" is okay. If you want to dance with person but not now, say that.

I do feel like exposures to west coast, tango, kizomba made me better at musicality and lead follow techniques.

I have taken two very long breaks. I was dancing for 3-4 years. I had many intermediate+ moves (I was still not very good at really physically challenging moves). I was not known as a good dancer to the circle. I had two-three self invented moves/patterns. I came back after 18 months break...

If the girl is not looking at me, or not liking the song/dance (it does not happen as much) thats not bad for me. If she is not stepping at all, or is running around and pulling me with her, thats bad, Or if she has a strong grab/hold.

I also danced WCS, tango, country. Nowhere else its as confusing as salsa. In everywhere else if you are a known face, girls start to accept you. NOs are a lot clear

Most my rejections are very confusing. She would either say "Next song" or "One second". Some of them would be putting their hands on my shoulder while doing that. I get confused and my favorite song is gone if I wait for them. If I move on (and do not wait for them) next time they do not dance...

Most follows do not reject. Those who do, do not have a nefarious mind. Its the way of feeling uncomfortable. Also the ways of flirting are different in different places. Its a reflection of inability to connect between the lead and the follow. Not most the guys who are rejected are bad/rough...

I have probably directly rejected only 3 to 5 times in my whole life. Implicit rejections should not be counted I guess. Like she is standing next to the lead or looking at the lead and the lead did not ask her?

I agree. In theory ideally a lead can be empathetic, charming, influential and intelligent. In reality its possible (I have seen some), but rare. Its the big amygdala that makes some empathetic. And it also makes these people indecisive because they try to see different perspectives. Less...