This thread is quite sad. I am just wondering...what comes first. Dance connection or personal connection...We like a person because we like to dance with him/her or we like the person, and it makes us feel that we like to dance with him/her.
Now, of course that with such guys, it is nice to develop a personal connection outside of dance too, and it often does happen, over time. But when it comes to your question, the "we like the person, and it makes us feel that we like to dance with him" for me doesn't apply at all In fact I often feel bad that I have guy friends in the salsa world who I really like as people but with whom I simply do not enjoy dancing. And the "We like a person because we like to dance with him/her" is *sometimes* the case for me, but not always. There are guys with whom I absolutely love dancing, but who I don't know very well at a personal level -- so in my mind of course I want to think I would also like them as a person if I knew them better, but I know little about them so I have no idea if that is really true--whether I would indeed like them if I knew them at a deeper level outside of dancing. (And maybe it's better that I don't know, this way I can keep the nice image I have created in my head about them and who they are in their normal life )