I have been repeatedly surprised by how salsaforums topics which seem obvious and relatively trite to me get a variety of interesting thoughtful responses - the "why won't anyone dance with me" thread, for example. This time I felt compelled to at least register a counter-thread. See, I like being the one to ask men to dance. That way I can do what men do all the time: check them out on the dance floor, take my time, and dance with the person I choose at the time that I choose. Unfortunately, I don't get that luxury very often in the San Francisco area, but I did get to do it in DC and Toronto, and it was wonderfully liberating. So, ladies, please consider dropping the passive/submissive female stereotype, and take matters into your own hands. Oh, and the answer to the question: it appears to be a combination of having seen me dance before, and having seen me dance with one of the alpha-salseros in the scene. Which only confirms my image of the salsa scene as shallow. Which, in turn, makes me glad that this forum exists so that we can communicate and get to know each other off the dance floor.