I thought there was an earlier thread on something like this, but I couldn't find it. The search kept excluding my key words. So when do you say no? When is it legit? Not so legit? When I'm dead tired: I'll say no When you've hurt me before: I'll say no When you have body odor: I'll say no (All legit in my book) When you're an un-fun offbeater: I'll try to avoid you so that you can't ask, or give off signals of not wanting to dance so that you don't ask. But if you do manage to ask, I'll say yes. :doh: When you're a fun offbeater: I'll say yes without all the avoidance. When I'm in the mood for _____ and you're _____: I'll avoid and give off negative signals. Then say yes if actually asked. When I don't particularly like dancing with you, but you're not a danger or anything: Avoid. Negative signals. Yes. (I call these my less-than-legit reasons and I sometimes wish I could just say no) When I've been drinking and a legit no is in order: I'll say no. When I've been drinking and a not-so-legit no is in order: I'll say no. I should probably just drink more. *snicker* So how do you ladies handle your not-so-legit inclinations to turn down? Do you even have such a gray area?