I have a question to those who have been in their dance scenes for a while. How selective were you in soliciting dances or in accepting dance invitations when you were seeking to reach the next stage in your dance evolution? Here is my dilemma: I feel I am slowly exiting beginner's hell into intermediate status. However, I limit my dance invitations to a select few because I know they are "safe" to ask. Some are terribly off time, they don't wait for signals, hold on tight, are back weighted, don't stay in the slot, etc. A lot of these followers have been around longer than I have, but show no signs of improvement. I really want to get out of my comfort zone and ask more advanced followers. Getting out of my comfort zone includes getting over the fear of rejection, accepting rejection, and also getting over the fear of being watched and judged while dancing with an advanced follower. To get to the next plateau, I am seriously considering abandoning my safe comfort zone followers in favor of better followers. Don't get me wrong, I am not suggesting that I won't ask beginner followers to dance. I will always always always ask new faces or beginners to dance and dance with beginners if they ask. I'm talking about the followers who are regulars who just don't seem to be aware that they're off time, that they are sometimes hard to protect and hard to protect others from, and are overly concerned with styling. I already no longer ask a few followers, and I know they spy me from across the crowded dance floor, and I feel bad for not asking anymore like I used to, and I can only hope that they're not wondering to themselves why I've stopped asking.