What would you tell a beginning, intermediate and advanced follow/lead is the most important thing to learn? i.e. - here are some thoughts I've had when dancing. I'm sure that some aren't quite dead on by a lot of standards, but these are what first come to mind. Leader Beginner - Find the Beat, and try to keep it. Intermediate - Find the connection with your partner. Advanced - Make sure you're making the follow feel good and not just worry about making yourself look good. Follower Beginner - Learn the Footwork, and keep that footwork small. Intermediate - Please for god's sake let us lead when we're the leader Advanced - Don't sacrifice your ability to follow for making yourself look good...all the time. (Some hijacks are worth of breaking the connection, but many aren't).