In salsa world, New York is famous for its turn patterns and multiple spins, London for friendliness, Milan for shoes and jackets, and Rostov for musicality. My experiences in Kiev leave me thinking of another approach to dance. There are a lot of good follows who dance for the looks. They don't have that many socials, but they spend quite a lot of time in the studio. So they are great dancers, but not exactly my style, which is focused on contact and music. So when we dance, I have to adapt. Have to give more room both in space and time. I have to appreciate what I've been given without excessive touching. The video that was posted on "Social Dancing" thread reminded me of this. The guy who is apparently a famous performancer and teacher does NY style. Patterns, patterns, spins, spins, pulling girl off balance. I checked other her videos: she's from Vietnam and their parties have bigger distance between partners. Also she lit up when she was given space and seemed a bit uncomfortable when he manhandled her. I think this is just different styles that clashed a bit. The question is: how do you adapt your leading, when your partner feels that dancing is about showing the body movement and style? What feels good as a follow when you want to do your thing and blow him off his feet with your great looks and moves?