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[danceguy]

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[salsachinita]

A small word of advice can be good, but when they start trying to teach on the dance floor, that's a sign that I've had enough! :oops:

Now, there's a fineline to be drawn here, nevertheless, there IS a big difference between a helpful hint/advise here & there, as opposed to teach on the dance floor :shock: !

So how much is too much.....? I wonder about that from time to time :? .

While I don't do it very often, I might have been guilty of giving 'too much' :oops: that would depend on the recipients I guess.

Every now and then we meet a nice guy who is a newbie. He's trying so hard but not getting anywhere. We might have spotted the key factor to help him along.
Do you tell him.....? I can tell you that if I was in his shoes I'd be very happy to be told :o !

A lot of advise may be very hard to take. The club/social floor surely isn't the best place for it........but a little concised pointer from a more experienced salsero/a......?

What do you think :? ?

[danceguy]

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[RugKutta]

I think there's nothing wrong with a little advice coming from either side as long as it's done right. As a leader, I'm always trying to get better, so I welcome any advice. Sometimes when I've just finished dancing w/ a lady who I feel is really advanced, I'll even ask her did she feel I could improve on some things or if I lead something wrong. I'm always open to criticism as long as it's done respectfully and with sincerety. Nobody wants to be made to feel as if he/she was just horrible on the dance floor . Peoples "salsa-emotions" as I like to call them, can go from one extreme to the other in just one dance, so be careful what you say and how you say it.

[peachexploration]

Hi RugKutta! Welcome to Salsa Forums! :D

[salsachinita]

Welcome to SF :D !

Peoples "salsa-emotions" as I like to call them, can go from one extreme to the other in just one dance...

:lol: :lol: :lol: This is soooooo true!

Another term to add to the ever-growing salsa vocabulary 8) !

[David]

If the leader is confident in his abilities, he probably should be equally confident in discussing ways to improve.

Also, the follower should try to get a feel for the receptiveness of the leader before doing a full critique. Maybe she might ask, "Do you mind if I make a suggestion?", or maybe she can give advice indirectly: "Someone was telling me the other day that ____ was an important skill to have, what do you think about that?"

[MacMoto]

Although I'm still a beginner I've found that some Salseras who are unable to "tone it down" will tend to give out advice when not asked. I don't mind this too much...but it gets really irritating when they do things like count the rhythm and tell me when to do moves. If only they'd dance WITH ME and not on their own, I could lead them better!
I can say the same thing about some leaders...

[SDsalsaguy]

Although I'm still a beginner I've found that some Salseras who are unable to "tone it down" will tend to give out advice when not asked. I don't mind this too much...but it gets really irritating when they do things like count the rhythm and tell me when to do moves. If only they'd dance WITH ME and not on their own, I could lead them better!
I can say the same thing about some leaders...
No doubt! Doesn't seem to be a function of role (lead/follow) but, rather, of personality/ego... :(

[danceguy]

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[borikenSalsero]

speaking of advice... it drives me nuts when I see a guy tell a girl, you have to get here when I do this! Dude, if you need her to get there then lead her there!

[danceguy]

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[squirrel]

well... there's not much you can do about such people...

I have this guy in my class, who completely refuses to follow my advice! I tell him to change his bad habits and he says: "no, I won't, I don't like to do it your way!"... so I wonder: Why is he taking classes with me then?!

[SDsalsaguy]

I have this guy in my class, who completely refuses to follow my advice! I tell him to change his bad habits and he says: "no, I won't, I don't like to do it your way!"... so I wonder: Why is he taking classes with me then?!
Now that is a good question squirrel . . . you've got to wonder what the thinking process behind that is . . . :?

[squirrel]

I guess he just cares about patterns!... hence his behaviour!

[tj]

Although I'm still a beginner I've found that some Salseras who are unable to "tone it down" will tend to give out advice when not asked. I don't mind this too much...but it gets really irritating when they do things like count the rhythm and tell me when to do moves. If only they'd dance WITH ME and not on their own, I could lead them better!
I can say the same thing about some leaders...
No doubt! Doesn't seem to be a function of role (lead/follow) but, rather, of personality/ego... :(

That pretty much sums it up!