Dance....
I agree with a large number of the suggestions.
For me, the best thing to do is this:
1. Go out dancing!
2. Dance with many partners.
3. Screw up. Smile. Laugh.
4. Repeat steps 1-3.
The only way for your styling to look natural is for it to FEEL natural. And as a beginner, you are doing something that isn't natural to your body. The only way to make it natural, is to do it.
You have to hit the clubs, dance with real partners (who aren't calling out moves), hear the music, move your body, screw up, get over it.... once you are comfortable with the concept of making mistakes and moving on, you will relax.... once you relax, you will begin to actually hear and enjoy the music.... once you hear and enjoy the music.... etc. etc.
There is no better tool than practice. And I see people all the time trying to find the shortcut to hitting the clubs and messing up. But, I really believe that everyone just has to go through that. How long it lasts is up to HOW MUCH you go and how much you practice on your own. Now, there IS such a thing as PROPER practice. And watching videos of yourself can help you make sure that you are practicing properly. BUT, first you have to get over the fear of mistakes. That is when everyone's first dance "break-through" happens.